

That's determined by your settlement agreement or the court — not something a real estate agent decides or advises on. What I can tell you is how the sale itself works once you and your attorney have an answer: whether you're both selling, one of you is buying the other out, or one of you is keeping the home outright with the other's name coming off the deed.
Not necessarily — some couples sell before the decree, some sell after, and some list while the divorce is still in process with both names still on title. Which order makes sense depends on your specific agreement and your attorney's guidance. Once you know the order, I can tell you what that means for timing the sale itself.
The split itself is set by your settlement agreement, not by me — but on the real estate side, I make sure the closing is structured so proceeds are disbursed exactly the way your agreement specifies, with both parties seeing the same numbers at the same time.
A neutral agent works for the sale, not for either person individually — every update, every showing note, every offer goes to both of you at the same time, in the same words. No side conversations, no information one of you doesn't have. That's the whole job.
There's rarely one right answer — it depends on your agreement, the local market, and what each of you needs financially in the short term. I'm glad to walk through the real estate side of that tradeoff with both of you; the legal side of 'when' is a conversation for your attorney.
I hold myself to a written code of ethics built specifically around divorce transactions — not just general best practices, but specific commitments about how I handle a sale when two people's interests are both in the room. Here's the actual list:
- I maintain an active real estate license in good standing, without disciplinary action.
- I maintain active membership with the National Association of REALTORS® and adhere to its Code of Ethics.
- I look for opportunities to educate the family law community about how real estate intersects with divorce.
- I never represent the buyer's side, personally or through a team, in a divorce listing.
- I maintain an arm's-length distance between both parties, any buyer, and any settlement service involved.
- I never seek or accept a personal or investment stake in a divorce property.
- I never represent either divorcing spouse in another transaction while a divorce listing is active.
- I hold the divorcing family's best interest as more important than closing the sale.
- I never accept or give referral fees or kickbacks for attorney referrals.
- I never take a listing outside my scope of expertise.
- I maintain client confidentiality permanently — not just until the transaction closes.
